A First Hand (or Fist) Account

If you people don't already know, there are quite a few fisting blogs in existence today. Recently I came across this post which I thought was worthy of re-posting here in my blog. So, since I am lazy and haven't been up to writing much lately I leave you with J and "Unwrapping the Layers". Enjoy.

Tuesday, May 10, 2005

Fisting

“The secret of a good fisting is to seduce the body into doing something it doesn’t expect that it can do.” – From The Loving Dominant by John Warren, Ph.D.

I wrote a little earlier about kinky Saturday night bingo games, and the ultimate penalty. Hitting the ultimate penalty number one Saturday night was how I got fisted the first time.

How to write this without sounding too, you know, clinical? ‘Cause, let’s face it – from one point of view it’s like the most intrusive pelvic exam ever. And we all love our pelvic exams, don’t we ladies?

Anyway, Himself had seen some information about fisting in The Loving Dominant, and wondered if he could do it. We didn’t know that we were skipping ahead to the advanced BDSM level. (We tried fisting before we tried many other things, including any sort of anal play.)

For those who don’t know, fisting is not having a person pound their closed fist into your vagina. The hand is in much more of a duck head shape with the fingers extended. The process is slow and gentle, and requires lots of lube. I’ve given birth four times, and I’m certain that this has something to do with the relative ease of fisting for me.

I say relative because it’s not like he can just pop his hand in there. Even with the hand in a duck’s head shape, the knuckles (the widest part of the hand in that position) are still a formidable challenge. I have to be in a very high state of arousal before the tissue will give. When I am right on the verge of orgasm, the muscles will release and let him in. It’s an absolutely amazing sensation.

The Loving Dominant describes it like this:

"A single finger at a time, you touch and tantalize. Only when the body is comfortable with the intrusion do you add another finger. The process is not a simple progression. For best results, it is more a series of advances followed by slight withdrawals. Both verbal and tactile communication should continue throughout the process with the intent of soothing the submissive’s very real fears and building the sexual tension.

The crux comes with the insertion of the thumb and the advance of the knuckles through the quivering ring of tightly stretched muscle. The alignment should be up and down rather than horizontal at this point, and generally entry can be made with a gentle rocking motion rather than a direct push.

Once you feel the muscle closing around your wrist, pause for a moment and reassure the submissive that everything is all right. Then, begin a gentle series of motions with your encased fist."

I read the blogs of other submissives and how they feel when they have a collar on. I don’t have a collar, and I don’t know if Himself wants to put one on me. I don’t know how I would feel about it if he did.

I do know that when he is fisting me I feel incredibly submissive; owned. I guess it’s hard not to feel owned by the man whose entire hand is inside your body.

The first time Himself fisted me, as his hand finally slid all the way in, I came mind-blowingly hard.

As the spasms faded away, I opened my eyes to see him watching me.

Then I started sobbing. And giggling. And then sobbing again. Weird.

It was like the circuits in my brain that control emotion had been temporarily fried by an orgasmic power surge. Apparently, my body simply didn’t know how to react.

As soon as I came, the muscles clamped down again, with his hand still inside me. Removing his hand was actually more uncomfortable than putting it in – it’s amazing the sensations that are pleasurable when you are aroused. After that he learned how to time his exit so that his knuckles were out past the sphincter of muscle when my orgasm was over.

This is FistingChamp here again. Busty, I see that I have some homework to do and I will take care of that next time. Adios.